The Beginning

To the women of Rexburg Idaho, this is for you. Well, I guess I should be a little more specific. This is for those women in Rexburg who are single and frustrated about it. My hopes for this blog are first: to provide a few tips and tricks I have picked up over the years from both trusted sources and personal experience that should help make dating a little easier and, hopefully, more fun up here in the frozen north, and second: I would love to be able to help raise the general self-esteem and the self-image of each woman (or man, you are welcome to read too) who reads this blog. This will be achieved through a generous helping of compliments from me and mantras for you so you can come to realize what a stunning and wonderful creature you really are. Both of these aims are designed to help the women of Rexburg sort through the seemingly never ending sea of unworthy men in order to find that one "diamond in the rough" who is going to treat you, you marvelous being you, exactly the way a true daughter of God more precious than rubies is meant to be treated.

It’s true ladies, and I know it may sound cliché, but you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince charming (I promise I will do my best to stay away from all the clichés our mothers used to tell us to make us feel better, but that one just fit too well). The key though, is to kiss the frogs, realize they are frogs and be able to move on to your next potential prince. But too many girls, I fear, are kissing these frogs and they find themselves so happy to actually be having some lip-lock time with a member of the opposite sex that they decide this frog could be “the one” and spend the next few weeks (or longer!) wasting precious time, energy, and effort on someone who is never going to be anything more than a frog. Ladies, please, never sell yourselves this short! The mentality that any guy who has a pretty face, an active pair of lips, hands, feet, or any combination of the above is worthy of all the undying devotion and dedication you have to offer is a mentality that needs to be adjusted.

I know how it feels, that beginning of attraction when everything seems fresh and wonderful, when you think your significant other can do no wrong, he is nothing but perfection in your eyes. We’ve all been there, when life has never felt so good. But then, something changes, he’s not the same as when you first started dating. Maybe he’s stopped coming by with as much frequency, or maybe the compliments have become less complimenting. But you remember, he used to be so good, he used to be perfect. But perfection or not, for some reason, now he’s not treating you like the princess you really are anymore. Now you’re frustrated and you don’t know what to do. He still drops by every once in a while, and he tells me my outfit looks good sometimes, and he’s really very cute, and (here’s the kicker, the thing 99% of girls tell themselves to talk themselves in to staying in a crappy relationship) how am I going to find anyone else?

Well, ladies, I am here to tell you, you gorgeous creature you, that any man who does not treat you like the princess you were born to be is never going to be the man who will make you happy for the rest of eternity. I mean, isn’t that what we’re all striving for? Eternal happiness? I offer this scenario for your contemplation: Mr. “perfect for the first day and a half” decides to stick around for the next few weeks of your life. He’s sitting on your couch, eating the food that you made him and watching the only action movie he could find among your vast collection of chick-flicks, and you are looking at him with a newfound sense of self-awareness. Is this really the man I can see raising my children, is this the man I can see building worlds by my side, is this really what I want for the rest of forever, someone who comes around occasionally and treats me well some of the time? I honestly hope your answer is no. Otherwise, we have a lot of work to do.

Stick with me girls, and maybe together we can find the man we’ve been waiting for since we first laid eyes on that big white building up the hill. If you’ll read with an open mind, I will try to write the things that will speak to who you really are and what you really want out of your dating experience. If we both do things right this may just turn out to be exactly what you really needed.